Child Molesters’ Wives’ Experiences of Marriage in the Underworld: A Phenomenological Study

Abstract

This phenomenological study offers a glimpse into understanding the unique experiences of the wives of child molesters. Data was collected and analyzed using Giorgi’s descriptive phenomenological psychological method. Four women who are currently married to convicted child molesters were interviewed for this study. Participant demographic information and personal histories are detailed. Main themes and subthemes include: (a) Finding the Magical Other—breaking from a toxic past and joyous connection with a partner; (b) Descent to the Underworld—traumatic discovery of sexual abuse, resulting in symptoms of soul loss; (c) Isolation and Initiation—loss of primary support groups such as friends and family and the formation of new, healing relationships with women in similar circumstances; (d) Commitment and Intent to Stay—making the decision to stay and navigating the new relationship rules; (e) Journey to Soul Renewal—connecting to a higher power and seeking healing through therapeutic relationships. Themes were interpreted with the use of depth psychological concepts. Additionally, this work explores the obstacles and implications of the findings for clinical treatment with a specific focus on the benefits of Jungian psychology. The study concludes with implications for our collective future, limitations of the study, and suggestions for future research.